Coping with Being Unemployed

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Being unemployed is rarely what one might call “having a good time,” though on the other hand some people feel like it is the “end of the world.” Dealing with being unemployed can be tougher on some than on others, depending on how well you had previously prepared for a rainy day. Here are some tips that I have pulled together from various resources, sharing some ideas on getting through the tough time of being unemployed, without pulling your hair out – hopefully.

 

When you become unemployed, treat the days of the “work week” as a full time job itself. Wake up, and go to work finding a job. Set yourself a daily goal and achieve it. Maybe you would like to set a goal of applying for three new jobs each day, depending on your career field. When you hit the computer in the morning, do not waste all day playing games or reading for entertainment; get to work searching and networking.

 

Change it up often, and do not simply rely on the internet to find your new job. Get out there and “hit the pavement” as it used to be done before the internet. While it is true that pretty much all places are online now, that does not always mean that they have gotten around to posting all possible positions online, or that smaller local companies are even necessarily listed on the larger job sites you use. Dropping in physically and speaking with a hiring agent rarely ever hurts you, and can be a door to a networking relationship if you keep it up.

 

Spend a chunk of your day reading through job tip blogs, like you are doing here on Nexxt, and seek to apply new ideas to the job search each day. Repeating the same old tired way you have always done it may be detrimental – learn and then try something new.

 

As you should do for a “real” job, make sure you take periodic breaks to get a little refreshed. Take a brief walk outside, get some fresh air, anything that would be a short change of pace; then get right back to it.

 

Many people become somewhat depressed when they are unemployed. Times are tough, and finding a new job immediately may not happen, and so depression and frustration set in. If this is left unchecked, it can just build and get worse, and makes finding – even just getting motivated to look for – a job that much more difficult.

 

If you feel depression creeping in, call a friend; go do something to keep your mind off of it. Even if you do not have money to go do something that costs, simply keeping contact with friends is a big plus. If you have really good friends at your old job, do not lose contact just because you lost your position there. Give them a periodic call to keep up the friendship, plus it can be considered a form of networking to keep contact with those related to your job field.

 

If you let depression creep in it can drag down all motivation and stop your job search dead in its tracks. It will allow in pessimism which will also drag you down and place you in a frame of mind that is unsuitable for a proactive job search.

 

During this time, you will probably have a real tight budget, but be sure to budget in a small amount for yourself. Yes, most of the money will need to go to the necessities, but do not make the mistake of cutting off all “treats” during this time. Take the family out for a simple ice cream cone, or even a simple cup of coffee with a friend will do. Again, simple things like this will assist in decreasing the depression factor as well.

 

Now, I understand that not all tips are applicable to all people, so hopefully you can take some of these tips and use them to spawn new ideas for yourself to get you on the motivated path to securing that new job. If you do have other tips in this area, things you personally have successfully used, please share below in the comments section.

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  • John C
    John C
    I too have been out of work for a while now.the answer to the question of "having recent experience,if no one will hire me"you must volunteer at places that agree with your skills.Taking this approach will allow people to see what you have to offer,plus it will keep you busy,thereby reducing depression. Volunteering doesn't pay in wages,but it will get you noticed and is great for networking.
  • John I
    John I
    Hi Jeffrey, I enjoyed reading your article also and Im really starting to realize just how hard life can be for an unemployed person. I have been a truck driver since high school graduation in 1982 and although it was a hard life to live not being home much such as people with regular types of jobs but it kept the bills paid and kept my family having what they needed. I developed some medical problems that required taking medication that is illegal to take while driving a commercial vehicle. I didn't think too much at first actually being excited to get off the road and start working a regular type job that would permit me to be home everyday to my wife and daughter. Well here I am 9 months later still job searching with few interviews that lead to nothing. I can't drive truck anymore due to the medication and my unemployment insurance has run out. We are to the stage of filing bankruptcy because we have no income at all now and relatives have tried to help us, but we need so much to break even every month and its just not coming in now. My wife has been patient and even supportive but I am starting to notice a change in her and I think marital problems might soon add to the rest of the problems. My daughter is 20 and I can't help her at all as she's going through college leading me to feel like a worthless dad especially since I was fortunate enough to have a Father who had a great career and gave me so much when I was young. I'm out of options, cant find employment at 48 years old and frustrated feeling as though its over for me. I'm still trying to find employment everyday though.
  • Mark P
    Mark P
    One idea that I will do to break up the job search is I bought a groupon special for golf... I will then plan to play at a minimum once a week.
  • Shirley n
    Shirley n
    The information in the article is good. Similar that given by the Dept of Labor. My unemployment ran out in Jan. I have been unemployed for over 3 years. I am an Claims Adjuster for workers compensation. And what I'm hearing is that companies want "recent experience". How can that be if I can't get a job from anyone? I do believe that the long termed unemployed are being discriminated against.
  • Dorothy H
    Dorothy H
    Thank you for this article as it contain goodSuggestions. The only thing I would add is toRead positive affirmations, whatever the sourceSo that you can keep the faith. Writing in a Journal is so helpful and highly recommended.
  • Thomas B
    Thomas B
    Hello Jeffrey,Thanks for posting this article. I can relate to a lot of what you presented to us on your document. I have been out of work for over a year. This is not the first time that this has happened in my career. All downsizing events. My reality is that I have applied for over 300 jobs in a year with very few interviews. I have modified my resume a number of times to meet the requirements of a posted position. I have networked with a number of past colleagues and current friends. I have even introduced myself as being unemployed when I meet someone new. I have felt and continue to feel of the emotions of being unemployed (depression, anxiety, fear of the unknown). My Employment Insurance will run out soon. This puts even more pressure on me to find some type of position. The issue is it is an employers market with a saturation of candidates. Too many applying for these posted positions. I cannot post for customer service representative positions as I have too much experience. The other factor that is impacting my job search is age. I am 51. Companies do not want to hire someone of age. Often I am told by the interviewer that they are concerned about my experience and if I would become bored in the role. Of course, I have a way of turning that question around presenting my transferable skills and shortened learning curve. Truly the internet world has not helped the unemployed get back to work quickly. Sometimes I feel like I am applying in a "black hole". Unless you know someone out there that can assist you, it will be a very difficult road ahead to find employment. Just to let you know, I am still searching......Thomas

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