He Said She Said of How to Get a Job

Like many couples in America today, my boyfriend and I don’t see eye to eye about the best way to get a job. Or should I say the best way for him to get a job.


I’m supposed to be the expert here since I research and write about the job market every week but I don’t pretend to know everything. I love him and want to encourage him so I try to keep an open mind but sometimes I just don’t agree with his tactics. He says he knows what works for him and it’s not necessarily what works for everyone else.


We just come from two different schools of thought about the proper way to approach the situation. Maybe the difference is in our gender identities or maybe it’s because of our blue collar verses white collar experience. My jobs have been less physically demanding and require study and analysis. He has worked in professions that require training as well as strength and endurance. It seems simple but our arguments can basically be broken down like this:

Since this spell of unemployment is temporary and I want our relationship to be permanent I try to keep in mind that nagging is not going to help anyone. It can be really tough to let him do it his way but for the sake of our sanity I bite my tongue and be supportive. I try to respect him and not to overstep my bounds by helping format his resume instead of spell checking all of his emails.


So where do you weigh in on our argument? Is he right or am I? Let me know what you think in the comment section below.



By Heather Fairchild - Heather is a multimedia developer with experience in web, film, photography and animation as well as traditional fine arts like painting and sculpting. In addition to writing for Nexxt, she is co-founder of design and promotion company. Heather’s spare time consists of making puppets, teaching Sunday School, building Legos and doing science experiments with her children.