Ways to Keep Your Head Up When The Job Search Drags on

Nancy Anderson
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Seeking employment can be frustrating, demanding and tiresome. You're constantly submitting applications, going on interviews and updating your resume. The days of searching for work may turn into weeks and months. The longer you go without a job offer, the more stressful the process becomes. Despite all of this, it is important to stay positive during your job search, and here are some ways to accomplish that.

Build a Support System

Being unemployed for an extended period of time can create feelings of isolation and loneliness. Ask your close friends, family members and former colleagues for support during this time, and make it a point to meet with them regularly during your job search, as keeping yourself isolated may enhance feelings of depression. Being social does not necessarily require money; try meeting a friend at a park for a walk or a game of volleyball. Volunteering is another great way to connect with friends and loved ones, and the experiences you gain can even enhance your resume.

Keep Learning

Being knee-deep in your job search is no excuse to stop improving yourself. Use this time to increase your knowledge of relevant subjects, or try reading motivational books, such as Stephen R. Covey's "7 Habits of Highly Effective People." Spend time at the free public library, and attend local seminars and networking events. Continuously learning new things breaks up the monotony of a job search while preparing you to become a more effective employee.

Take Regular Breaks

This may seem counterintuitive, but it is important to step away from your job search and unwind regularly. Searching for a job can be as demanding as a full-time job, so taking time off to gain perspective and recharge is imperative. Take regular walks, join an adult sports league or take a short road trip to visit a friend for a few days. What you do with this time doesn't matter, as long as it temporarily takes you away from the daily grind.

Practice Positive Self-Talk

Going weeks and months without positive feedback from potential employees can breed feelings of self-doubt. No matter how your interviews are going, train yourself to always stay positive. Regularly remind yourself of your strengths and accomplishments. Practice positive visualization: keep a mental picture of your ideal career situation in the back of your mind, and remind yourself that with each passing day, you are getting closer to that ideal image.

It is important to remember that searching for a job is temporary. Many job seekers find themselves dealing with feelings of self-doubt, despair and negativity. Staying positive and remaining persistent throughout your job search helps keep those negative thoughts at bay and makes the journey to gainful employment less difficult.


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  • UTZ V.
    UTZ V.

    Very helpful and positive thinking. Sometimes I see the light and at times the light goes dim or even out. The volunteer advice is useful, I do it just to get out of the house, feel important and keep my mind off the bad thoughts. My best advice is prayer, keep prayer. Pray Until Something Happen (PUSH).

  • Denise Little
    Denise Little

    The last three sentences in this article really nail it.

  • James R.
    James R.

    You have had along, productive career up to this point in which you have added tremendous value to your organizations.. Do NOT let this moment (unemployment) define you after all your hard work, which is really what defines you. The article has some great advice that works; take these steps and expand on them, and hang in there.

  • Jill Zielke
    Jill Zielke

    Amazing advice thank you 👍

  • Michael W.
    Michael W.

    Volunteer somewhere. You can use your time to help others which will help your mood, and increase you connections.

  • Pamela R.
    Pamela R.

    Some companies only want to hire you part time and under the table.

  • Kimberly J.
    Kimberly J.

    Cont: it is so refreshing to here some of the same anxieties being expressed. I appreciate my therapist and all who put out Postive thought.

  • Kimberly J.
    Kimberly J.

    I would never have thought that I would be on this site but my recent termination has put me here. Although I find all these sound tips helpful I can say that Postive self telethon has been key

  • Daniel J.
    Daniel J.

    I remember attending a workshop with similar suggestions. I've been laid off for 3 months but prior to my last job it was seven months. Yes, it was a trying time. However if I could emphasize two of your recommendations it would be take a break once and a while from you job search and build a support a support system. I live in the SF Bay area and beaches are not to0 far away for a day of relaxing, walking or reading a book. I also have eight friends whom I meet with as a group or individually for coffee once in an awhile. Faithful friends are a blessing. If I might add a suggestion. "Never consider yourself a failure." You are just as important to the job force as the next guy/gal. Good luck and prayers to fellow job shoppers.

  • Jeanie L.
    Jeanie L.

    Invest in some career coaching. There are some free opportunities online. Coaching will help you explore what's best for you and will help you maintain perspective during the transition.

  • THOMAS JEFFRIES JR
    THOMAS JEFFRIES JR

    I was released in February after 19 years with the same company. Even though the company is growing, it seems that I was a victim of "addition by subtraction". There have been older, long term employees like us who have been released in favor of younger folks who are hired at entry level salaries. Companies are looking to save money in any way that they can, so there will be casualties in that process. We have to remain positive and keep going in the right direction. Peace and blessings.

  • CASSANDRA R.
    CASSANDRA R.

    Very refreshing! Thank you.

  • MARTIN KEYSER
    MARTIN KEYSER

    I don't want to sound like I'm turning this into a political discussion BUT . . . I hope that the next administration, whatever party it is, understands how American Capitalism works.

  • Danielle S.
    Danielle S.

    Thank you for this article. I have been reading so many articles to try and keep up on what I can do to better myself and this one was refreshing! I have been out of work since Jan 2014. The biggest problem I have is a big gap on my resume from when I stayed home with my children several years ago. Employers are so reluctant to want to know anything I did before that time and that I just shut down as a person for 9 years. I actually did more work when I was home. When I went back to work I had to take jobs in fields I wasn't really interested in just to make money, and then my last job replaced me while I was on short-term disability. So I have a mess to try and come back into. It does get so frustrating!! Single mother of 2 kids..one in college and one going to be in college in another year! But I do keep trying each day and praying something will happen, I have to get out of my parents house soon!!! Thank you for listening :) Good luck to everyone else on here!!!

  • kenny n.
    kenny n.

    I am 60 yrs old have not had a real money making job since 2010. At that time I was asked by the employer if I could be at the job site tommorrow . He hired me on the site reason was I came from a working farm and I did what was asked of me. I went above and beyond what he asked of me. I didn't fill out apps These employers of today hire those high school and colege kids who they know wont work long and they can throw them out and hire more cause there out there for a little money and not wanting to work long and hard.

  • Mark Volz
    Mark Volz

    Beyond just received notification of this article... better late than never, right? Thank you for giving helpful advice rather than the old "volunteer, go job networking, get another degree" type of specific advice, which, in my opinion, all seem to border on the chicle.

    Anyway, after reading the article and comments, it is painfully clear that there is still an employment issue in this country. Positive articles like this one generate interesting comments that are therapeutic in nature. At least people, such as myself, do not feel so isolated or alone in persisting with a 5+ year job search and the demoralizing feelings associated with it. This helps the psychological aspect of the long term unemployed, which, to me, is an unmentioned issue and an undervalued one.

  • Janet S.
    Janet S.

    Wow....I was layed off in Dec after being at the same company for 17 years. I Have been amazed how looking for a job has changed. I miss the convenience of job posting in one place like the newspaper. Between the job boards and company websites it is very easy to miss a potential job simply because they are posted in too many places. I have found some companies will post their jobs with multiple job sites and then some will only use one. i keep a list of the jobs I have applied for, plus I have signed up. with several employment agencies. They have been the most effective on sending me out for interviews and there is no fee. . It can get depressing but I am trying to use the time at home to clean out some closets etc. It is almost therapeutic to get odd jobs done while I am looking for work and my husband loves getting a home cooked meal every night. Keep your chin up and stay positive.

  • David Obryant
    David Obryant

    I have been out of work since 2003 due to an illness that is now in remission. I recently completed my associates degree and two certificates during this time. I have been actively looking for employment for about two years now. Been on a couple of interviews with the recruiter telling me that they believe that am going to get the job but then it turns out I don't get it so it's kind of fustrating. Then, on top of that I have people, especially family members, that tell me I am not doing a enough or doing the right thing and that is my fault that I'm not getting a job. With that type of feedback it makes it hard to keep going. I am always getting compare with other people in the family with comments such as "if so and so can find work, so can you" or "your not aggressive enough " the list goes on and on of comments I get from others about my job search.

  • Marilyn Mack-Hutchins
    Marilyn Mack-Hutchins

    Thank you, this was truly a blessing, God is faithful.

  • patrice m.
    patrice m.

    Thank you for this timely article. My job of 37 years was outsourced to a reference lab and it's been difficult dealing with sudden unemploymen, especially after so many years at the same place! Staying positive and busy are key to avoiding depression. This too shall pass and something better will come along.

  • Sandra Dee Brown
    Sandra Dee Brown

    Thank you so much. This article is not only timely but motivating. You have given me another spark in the wheel,

  • Amy Q.
    Amy Q.

    oops , my question is .Employers or prospective employers - do they have a time line basis or do they like to keep us guessing ?

  • Amy Q.
    Amy Q.

    I have been unemployed for 4 months , laid-off in Jan., I am constantly net-working and actively looking for a full time position. My question is

  • Cynthia B.
    Cynthia B.

    Excellent advice and remember to workout regularly to feel good and remain positive.

  • Jeffrey Williamson
    Jeffrey Williamson

    Timely for someone just starting on the job search road again. Thanks.

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