Ways to Keep Your Head Up When The Job Search Drags on

Nancy Anderson
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Seeking employment can be frustrating, demanding and tiresome. You're constantly submitting applications, going on interviews and updating your resume. The days of searching for work may turn into weeks and months. The longer you go without a job offer, the more stressful the process becomes. Despite all of this, it is important to stay positive during your job search, and here are some ways to accomplish that.

Build a Support System

Being unemployed for an extended period of time can create feelings of isolation and loneliness. Ask your close friends, family members and former colleagues for support during this time, and make it a point to meet with them regularly during your job search, as keeping yourself isolated may enhance feelings of depression. Being social does not necessarily require money; try meeting a friend at a park for a walk or a game of volleyball. Volunteering is another great way to connect with friends and loved ones, and the experiences you gain can even enhance your resume.

Keep Learning

Being knee-deep in your job search is no excuse to stop improving yourself. Use this time to increase your knowledge of relevant subjects, or try reading motivational books, such as Stephen R. Covey's "7 Habits of Highly Effective People." Spend time at the free public library, and attend local seminars and networking events. Continuously learning new things breaks up the monotony of a job search while preparing you to become a more effective employee.

Take Regular Breaks

This may seem counterintuitive, but it is important to step away from your job search and unwind regularly. Searching for a job can be as demanding as a full-time job, so taking time off to gain perspective and recharge is imperative. Take regular walks, join an adult sports league or take a short road trip to visit a friend for a few days. What you do with this time doesn't matter, as long as it temporarily takes you away from the daily grind.

Practice Positive Self-Talk

Going weeks and months without positive feedback from potential employees can breed feelings of self-doubt. No matter how your interviews are going, train yourself to always stay positive. Regularly remind yourself of your strengths and accomplishments. Practice positive visualization: keep a mental picture of your ideal career situation in the back of your mind, and remind yourself that with each passing day, you are getting closer to that ideal image.

It is important to remember that searching for a job is temporary. Many job seekers find themselves dealing with feelings of self-doubt, despair and negativity. Staying positive and remaining persistent throughout your job search helps keep those negative thoughts at bay and makes the journey to gainful employment less difficult.


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  • LINDA S.
    LINDA S.

    @Charles M- I'm concerned about you. The job search is tough but things do turn around. Keep trying and please reach out for help. We don't want you to hurt yourself !!!! The hotline number is: 1800 273 TALK (8255)

  • Chris Dastoli
    Chris Dastoli

    I am now 8 months into my job search, I have another interview today. I am doing my best to keep my head up, but it's difficult, having a family that needs me to support them and provide for them, and the feelings of inadequacy and insignificance can be overwhelming at times. Thank you for posting this today, every little bit helps!

  • MICHAEL BRUGMAN
    MICHAEL BRUGMAN

    Awesome reminders and Insights. Thanks Nancy

  • Nancy Anderson
    Nancy Anderson

    Thank you everyone for your comments. We are glad that the article helped to lift some of you up. Being unemployed at any age can be very depressing. But things truly are looking up in the job market. More companies are posting jobs now and are hiring. Even though the salaries may be less than what we were earning ten years ago, it would still be a salary and a chance to learn, grow and be promoted. @Steven is absolutely right that you need to be prepared to be flexible regarding salary whether for a permanent placement or a contract position. @Dawn, it may be hard but you may need to learn to drive a longer distance to find a job. In my area people drive at least an hour every day - each way - in order to work. @Charles I was distressed to read how much in despair you are. Can you apply for social security? @Keith thanks for the suggestions for LinkedIn. Always good to let people know that you are unemployed and looking. And thanks everyone else for keeping prayer and your faith in the forefront. We wish you all the best on your job search.

  • Steven G.
    Steven G.

    Guess again folks; job searches in this economy are now dragging across years. Employers are reluctant to add to headcount. Limited contract assignments (assuming that you can even find those) has become the new "normal." Also, there is a marked decline in terms of what some employers will even pay for contract help. One must be prepared to be very flexible regarding hourly contract rate.

  • Charles  M.
    Charles M.

    I´ve been out of work since 2008 in a country with 25 % or so unemployment. A few years ago I came with a minute or two of hanging myself. I´m 63; not many companies want you at my age. I search for work everyday but may never work again and end up destroying myself.

  • Dawn Moklak
    Dawn Moklak

    I'm trying to stay positive it's tough especially looking for work close to where I live as I don't like to drive too far try to stay within where I live or even finding a ride as I don't have a smartphone for uber or cash on hand for a cab and I can only have my boyfriend drive me so much so I'm kinda of crippling myself distance wise

  • J.Carole Cherry
    J.Carole Cherry

    Great advice, it's stressful looking for work, I'm doing well by staying positive. Praying helps also. Talk to positive people. Stay focused on what you need.

  • Keith H.
    Keith H.

    The best advice I can give is to join LinkedIn and find the people you will be interviewing with or else a department head and send an InMail or send one to the internal recruiter for the company. Do NOT fool out an online application and leave it at that. I've had 6 different companies interview me in the last three months who had all either auto-rejected or ignored my online application from months earlier, once I contracted someone directly. Waiting for ATS response has cost me, by the time I calculate 401K closure to pay bills, the tax penalty for doing so, and the life on credit cards it has cost additionally to survive, about $100k Thai may never have been spent had those companies actually been aware I was applying when I first did. I had over $35k in savings, a 760+ credit score, no debt except my cat and motorcycle, and severance when I quit and now my credit is crap, I am $30k in debt including tax owed, and my job pays $1 LTE an hour than the one I had and allows no overtime to make up the difference. Don't let this happen to you.

  • Keith H.
    Keith H.

    Yeah good article. I quit a job of 8 years back in May of last year because it had turned dread end, was taking a physical toll, and was changing my personality. I reached final stage interviews with two different companies within two weeks but didn't get either job despite being frontrunner because of HR idiocy in one case and the job being shelved in another. Altogether, it took me over 25 interviews and 11 months to find a new job, which is actually an 18 month contract position.

  • P. J.
    P. J.

    In trying my best to stay positive I have went from a 40 to 60,000 $ a year income to applying to jobs with 10.00 a hour and still nothing I've had 1 kid drop out of college 1 graduates from h s in 2 weeks I'm so depressed your article will help keep me motivated a little longer thank you

  • MICHAEL H.
    MICHAEL H.

    Amen to all of your suggestions. For me the hardest thing was staying positive after almost having, but being rejected after the second interviews. Then after 9 months of job searching, my dream job finally opened up and after my second interview, I found my nitch and a better career fit for me than I had ever had before.

  • Robert G.
    Robert G.

    There is some good info here. I have found that taking in a matinee movie to also be a good inexpensive way to take your mind off the negative or the search from time.Also staying in shape helps you keep up the positive mental health .

  • Richard Williams
    Richard Williams

    Thank you. I especially like the "Keep Learning" part. I have the time now to do things that will improve my life and situation.

  • Brenda D.
    Brenda D.

    Thanks! I lost my job July 2014 due to back surgery now been looking for jobs with no response. Very depressing, and yes I get lonely and down because of very little interaction with society. This article was a help!

  • April M.
    April M.

    I'm so happy to read such an inspirational statement. I'll always say keep positive thoughts trust me it's hard however it works. The statement about feeling less then is a true statement try not to think of less anything because the glass is half full your positive thinking will prevail

  • Bonnie D.
    Bonnie D.

    Thank you for this! I actually had an anxiety attack at the grocery store thinking about a job interview today! Why can't perspective employers see that I'm talented, smart and worth hiring? Despair is setting in. I need this to remind me it's ok to take breaks! THANKS!!!!

  • Jay R.
    Jay R.

    People have told me to stay with it for 6-8 hrs a day and I get my breaks driving to interviews but...I sneak them in or else would go nuts.I lost my job after having surgery because they thought I would take too long to heal.So layed off was their term even though there was no return date.I'd been with them 9.5 years.I've been looking for work since Dec,2014 and have implimented many things you spoke of so...yes they help but there are a few things in there that I will add to what I do...School is one....Thanx

  • Denise Schell
    Denise Schell

    Thank you, going through this right now for an intership in the Administrative assistant field.

  • Eric Hassell
    Eric Hassell

    This article was very helpful.. I've been unemployed for nearly 16 months (when I moved to a new area) and it's taking a mental toll on me. I'm working very hard to stay positive. Recently joined a gym and studying for the CFA Level 1 exam. Thanks

  • Rosalie M.
    Rosalie M.

    Although I am employed at a dead end job that does not utilize my skills and I am made to look stupid eventhough my name is the one that is called all day long, I thank God every day that I have this job. I have been here a number of years, I am at the end of my rope. I also am underpaid, but it keeps me afloat. I don't feel as if I can get anything else because I am a senior. I am still trying to get out even at my age.

  • Roger S.
    Roger S.

    Very true. Keep active and stay optimistic in evening you do during this enduring time

  • Cheryl D
    Cheryl D

    I have been actively job searching and going on interviews for about 6 months now. I think my interviews go well, but then I don't get the offer. I try to stay positive, but it's so hard for me to try to enjoy other things when I'm stressing about the bills piling up! I want nothing more but to start my career and focus on my future. It has been so hard, and I don't know what is taking so long. Although, just a few days ago, my previous boss told me that she just did an employment verification for me and that it went well. She seems to think that I'm going to get the job. But just because the employer is checking your references, doesn't always mean you got the job. So I don't want to celebrate just yet, but I'm trying to remain positive and hope I get the "call" soon!!

  • Lori S.
    Lori S.

    Thank you ... I'm in this very trap. Will work harder at staying positive.

  • Patricia Rice-Diggs
    Patricia Rice-Diggs

    Thank you so much. Although I am employed and very grateful. I am disgusted because I stayed here to long. (20 years) although I am grossly underpaid. It was convenient for my family. Mad at myself for not getting out sooner.

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